“I’m living a third life. I found myself saying things I regretted, but now I’m on the other side…”


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Paolo Maldinidirector of the Milan Technical District, in a podcast to m2o which was reported by TMW He talked about his relationship with music and some situations on the court, starting with evening outings, but only when winning. “Yeah, I would say yes. We have won a lot of times and that helped. Naturally, you don’t feel like quitting if the game goes wrong, and live it as shame or defeat, you should be part of the sports world instead. You always have to. Do a lot and be careful, you can elicit some reactions from people. Even while playing European cups and winning there too, sometimes you get a double.”

How did the system change?
“Social media has a life of its own, it’s part of a footballer’s life. There was more freedom because there were fewer paparazzi, fewer curious people, and you could have a more free, normal life. The idea that they come more or not, I don’t know… I got to know my body along the way, learned to manage myself, even make mistakes. Try, make mistakes but learn. That’s what I tell them, every dad should do it with his kids.”

Is it also possible to achieve extraordinary results by dedicating time to leisure?
“I had the right to have fun, there is an age for everything. It helped me meet other people, and measure myself against other things. At 20, I also have to have fun. On a business level, I started working as a professional at the age of 16., I I lost part of that life, I never went out on Saturdays and Sundays. When I solidified myself as a start, I had the desire and the strength to get out. It’s a process that you have to learn. The person I most worried about was my dad was a soccer player, he had the 60s mentality, to get out of retirement, You had to escape.”

The results came anyway…
“Yes, I’ve been getting out of the house, but I deal with the elderly. I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, and I’ve never taken drugs. The goal of my life has been to be efficient in my work. I set my goals very clear, sometimes wrong. I think it’s practical, Instinctively, and a little trying and a bit wrong, you overstep my bounds. When you’re really late in the evening, at eight you have to train…You also test yourself, How will I be the next day? I was physically strong and often measured myself against yourself.”

Some of your colleagues may have exaggerated…
“It’s a choice, sometimes an excuse, not understanding the moment. Being able to keep your feet on the ground is essential, you have to have a tough education. At home, but also with youth academies. It started when I was 10 years old, I thought. In the schedules, sacrifice, and playing for the team. Before you went to school until first year, there were a lot of things that could lead you to do other things. They set goals, rules, and schedules. Think of you but the team. I was happy When my kids decided to have this experience.”

Have you often found yourself saying the same things about your father?
“Not all of them, which I think are right in saying them, but I also remembered when I was in the car with my dad and he said to me ‘I have to talk to you’ and it bothered me. In hindsight, thank God for talking to me. With my kids, to tell them I know I know.” That it bothers them because the same thing happened to me. Anyway, not football.”

Your kids are soccer players.
“When I gave birth to my first child, I do not deny that I was very happy. I saw my brother-in-law, with my sister, he had two girls … just dancing and dancing and dancing. Born in this environment I was happy to have a male, then the second one too and my wife was happy. I was happy, But then I was very upset: the pressure of a football father, eyes were focused between 10 and 12 when I was still a child. It bothered me all this attention, but above all else. It was a hard road to assert itself.”

Did you feel it?
“Yes, a little, in the suburbs. Sport in general is very democratic, and in the end the pitch decides, the recommendation is not there. Who determines who you are is the pitch, but there is prejudice. Serve, you have two kinds of reaction, give up immediately, or show others that they are wrong. I’ve been through the second, and I remember those moments. But it’s not so obvious, as a kid I was more introverted about this thing here.”

Also because you found yourself connecting.
“Communication is important, it is not my favorite branch, I have preferred to play football. But when you are a captain, in a great team, it is the right thing to do. I have always respected the people who work in communication, out of my way.”

Did you have someone help you?
“At first you talk like others, then you say a lot of trivia. Sometimes the question is trivial, and so is the answer. As you get older and experience, you try to articulate concepts. Then you see the reactions, if you say things I think you should be appreciated. Then go your way. I tried from the beginning to copy the examples I liked best.”

Who was an example?
“When I saw Franco Baresi playing, he was the best, even in training he died instead of scoring. He didn’t talk much, he did a lot of facts. He was an example who showed me a path that I really felt was mine.”

And as a general picture?
“I found myself saying things I regretted. Now I’m on the other side, even thinking about the things that were said as a player and as a leader…Sometimes you seem to know everything, but when you’re on the other side, you understand other things better. In general, The things I said, at least in that moment there, I thought about.”

When I retired at the age of 41…
“The first three months, with the derby at the beginning and Barcelona after it…what you miss is the adrenaline in the game. It’s the thing that changed you the most at first, and then you get over it. Then do frivolous things, like having coffee with friends, which I didn’t do from Before. I’ve never had a life with fixed commitments and schedules. A second life, this is a third life: between the office and Milan, where they train, where you reside in the fresh air. You sit on the bench and watch training, you talk to the players and the coach. For twelve years, I was I do everything else, I was in the States, and I wanted to open a hotel for two years, and then I changed my plan. I enjoyed the kids, the wife, friends, the things I neglected. I wanted to make my career to the fullest.”